What weighs more heavily on one, far more than the extra kilos one piles on, is the uneasy burden of expectations, and no one is exempt from it. To be above it, calls for a very special mental make-up that can build a citadel against the invasion of expectations.
At times, it happens that the relief we feel after achieving something is far greater than the excitement of the achievement. While we understand that it’s purely in someone’s best interest, we cannot overlook the burden factor.
We all know that expectations don’t cease but instead mount with every performance. And, it’s a fact that we tend to expect more from those who perform. Human nature is such that you don’t expect much from under performers, whereas regular performers are only given heavier burdens of expectations to carry. Does this mean the underdog is the one inadvertently blessed with the advantage of being own self and the freedom to explore his potential in his style, at his pace??
I remember once a student whose marks generally hovered on either side of the passing grade telling me that if he scored 60% in Higher Secondary, his father had promised him a bike for college. I figure this happens with almost everyone at that age; at least it did with me, just that 60 had to be 90!
If we talk about professional expectations, they are a lot easier to handle than the expectation at home and in relationships. At work, no one nags about your non-performance, but you’re sacked at some point of time if all effort to make you perform comes to no avail. But, in relationships the option doesn’t exist. Moreover, at work one always desires greater challenges when a task gets accomplished- we certainly don’t want to do same things over and over. In relationships, more is expected from people who do, and there is no saturation point to the expectations then.
The bar of expectations is definitely a burden if one doesn’t learn to shrug it off now and then, keep it aside and live on one’s own terms. I suspect a refined shrewdness in the attitude of the performing underdog. What do you think??